Mom before me

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Chapa Family Hammond, IN 1982

Just last week my dad sent me a link to a bunch of family photos that he had scanned. One photo in particular stuck out to me. It was my grandmother holding my cousin Robyn, probably 35 years ago. The early 1980’s and all the women are in heels. My Tia Isabel is wearing what looks like a chambray romper (want!) and my mom is looking very lady like in black and white asymmetrical designed dress with white heeled sandals. I would love to find both of these looks look in my own closet, I wish I could see their purses and accessories closer. My Welita is in a stylish blouse and pants and looks glamorous with sunglasses and her hair down.  Continue reading “Mom before me”

five things: the retail therapy edition

 

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I blame the day light savings. I blame the election. I blame our recent real estate ups and downs. I blame a little boy who is proving why they call it the ‘terrible twos’. Either way I have been feeling in a bit of a funk these days. And sometimes retail therapy does the trick so today I am curating the five things that can help improve my mood.  Continue reading “five things: the retail therapy edition”

my first event, a recap!

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Last Thursday was my first foray into an event curated by the blog. As a reminder I partnered with the shop Perican Bing for a madre’s night out shopping party. You can read more about Dominga and her shop here & here. I definitely learned a few things in hosting an event like this for the first time and reminded myself of a few things too.

First off, I am still quite shy about this blog. It has been two years and most people who know me in real life, not blog life, don’t even know that I have this little live journal out in the world. So maybe I could do a better job of self-promoting in my day to day as I enjoy sharing these anecdotes on life these days. Continue reading “my first event, a recap!”

Guest Post:

Back today as promised, a day late, to share Dominga’s style tips and perspective on a few pieces you can introduce into your wardrobe to get major style points. But first, a quick reminder to comment below or email Dominga to RSVP for our event next Thursday.

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Each morning I find myself in the throng of harried-looking moms who are gently (or not) prodding their children to the school drop-off line. Whether we’re rushing off to work or to a short stint of precious solo time, we are united in our unforgiving schedules and the promise of another day of mostly the same.  I’m sure I’m not alone in my quest to figure out ways to maximize efficiencies, whether it’s shaving a few minutes off the daily commute or bedtime. Now that my daughter has adopted her own sartorial point of view, we’ve incorporated choosing outfits into the evening routine, which got me thinking about my own approach to getting dressed. Continue reading “Guest Post:”

I would totes go if I was in NYC…

Hatch has been all up in my inbox this week, and it is only Monday. I have no plans to be pregnant soon or if you asked me today, no plans to ever be again, more on that later. But I am still swooning over their pieces. I love, love, love them all. A little spendier than I wish but such good stuff. I wrote about my love for their striped bateau dress here.

So for those of you in NYC who are expecting, plan to be expecting, recently given birth or just love flowy beautiful pieces check out this sample sale TOMORROW, 80%  off is definitely a steal for these goodies. They are also having a 40% off sale on their summer items on their site now.

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xx Ly

summer dress

A few weeks back I wrote about the hard time I was having finding dresses to wear in the summer that allowed me to easily nurse Mo without having to pull the skirt of the dress up to expose my undies, stomach and boobs.

Adia Dress by American Apparel
Adia Dress by American Apparel

Unfortunately my cry for help fell on deaf ears. I did not really get any good tips or pointers on styles to check out as I was anticipating.

But after this weekend I have found a savior in the dress department for nursing women. I stopped in the American Apparel in our neighborhood and tried on a dress I had been eyeing. After a quick check for access to my breasts in the fitting room I knew I had a winner and immediately scooped it up.

It is the Adia Dress and at $54 is a great find in my book. It is a tunic style that can be worn as a dress in the summer, or over pants/tights in the cooler temps. The feature that makes it best for nursing is the low slit at the neckline. This feature allows for me to effortlessly feed Mo without exposing anything I don’t need to. The main reason though that I opted for the dress is that the silhouette is very flattering and chic.

low neckline = easy access
low neckline = easy access

I am very pleased with the purchase and plan to  be getting lots of wears out of it.

Happy nursing & happy dress shopping!

xx Ly

what is the bigger struggle?

 I recently was thinking about the struggle I had, #firstworld I know, with dressing the bump and relating it to my similar difficulties with now dressing for breastfeeding. I never had thought about how much I would have to adjust my wardrobe for feeding Mo. I was very much looking forward to wearing my normal clothes once the baby was out but did not even know about the difficulty I would have with dressing for nursing. Lets start with the bras. Yes, we all know that nursing bras are for the most part hideous. I purchased a few and rarely wear them. I do love the nursing tanks from Target and wore those most of my maternity leave. But most often I have resorted to wearing shelf bras and a few Nike sports bras that I can easily pop a boob out of. I wear these with camisoles so as not to expose my mummy tummy when l am nursing Mo. I can wear pretty much any top and bottoms with my solution of nursing tank/ shelf bra and camisole. One thing that is quite difficult though, is wearing dresses. I LOVE to wear dresses. They are so easy, one piece outfits and I have a fair amount that could be on rotation. But the issue I have encountered is that I have to flash my whole body when I want to feed Mo. Lifting up the skirt of the dress up to my chest to get the boy access to his food. Now that I have returned to work and I pump in the privacy of a mommy closet I am looking forward to wearing dresses & normal bras again. Cause in the closet I can disrobe and pump in privacy which means I can wear what I want! I am though, on the hunt for everyday dresses that allow for easy access for feedings. I figure dresses with button fronts or low necklines could work well. I did recently purchase this jumpsuit from the brand Collective Concepts and it has been really fun to wear and easy to feed in. So my question is, what did you have a harder time dressing, the bump or the boobs? And please share any nursing fashion favorites you have! xx Ly

find me on cardi & couture

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Today I am guest posting over on the blog Cardigans & Couture. Regan & Katie’s blog is one of the first ones I ever began to follow so its fun to be featured over there. I am sharing some of my maternity favorites that work post partum too.

For those of you who might be coming over here by way of C&C welcome! I wanted to share a cheat sheet to some of my favorite posts on my blog to get you familiar with what we have to offer over here. And of course follow me on insta where I post regularly & most often humorously about this adjustment period.

The End is Coming – A post covering the mix of emotions I was feeling at week 36 of being pregnant.

WTF I am going to be a Mom!?! – Anxiety over this new label of ‘madre’

Maternity Style – A collection of all of my maternity style posts including the ASOS dresses I mentioned over at C&C.

Life With Baby – Real talk about life with a little one.

Thanks for stopping by & please let me know what you think!

xx Ly

mom hair

This is the first in a few posts about self esteem, body image and vanity in light of my recent status of becoming a madre.

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Lets talk about hair. Last weekend when I was in the mid west for a family reunion honoring my maternal grandparents 60th wedding anniversary. Cousins, aunts and uncles from across the country and Mexico joined together to celebrate our family. During one night of bonding I was poking fun at my mother’s hair when a cousin quickly came to her defense and joked that my hair was back in a ponytail mimicking my mother’s and I quickly released the hair tie as to signal that I wasn’t quite at her status yet. You see, my mother has a signature ponytail that she has worn my entire life. The past five years or so her hair has gracefully transitioned to silver strands taking over her black mane. I have always respected and planned to follow suit with never coloring my hair and honoring my own personal evolution by letting my hair naturally change over time. I have had gray hairs here and there for the past two years or so and have never colored my hair. No middle school rebellion or high school dye jobs for this girl. I have managed to maintain a mane of healthy non fuss hair.

The majority of my life my hair has been long. My mother had a rule that I could not cut my hair until my quinceañera, 15th birthday. So after turning 15 I had a few small stints with short hair but my cuts were always pretty basic and boring. I am an undeducated person when it comes to hair and beauty and have a medium wave to my hair that made requesting styles and cuts for my hair really difficult. Pair that with my own ability to use a curling iron or blow dryer at zero, I ended up sticking with long hair as it was always easier to tame and manage.

Flash forward to age 30, last year, I got a ‘lob’. A ‘long bob’. Hair that hits my shoulder about and is cut somewhat asymmetrically and voila I have hair that I do not need to brush let alone wash much at all. I got this cut wanting something a little ‘edgier’. About a month later I learned I was pregnant and quickly realized that this ‘edgier’ hair cut paired with my newly acquired leather jacket was like a textbook reaction of someone rejecting their ‘mother to be’ status.

I write all this because I have, along with pop culture, always equated short hair with motherhood shlumpiness. I had visions, far off visions, of myself with mermaid hair and a baby on my hip, see above. Not short messy bedhead and a baby on my breast. But here I am. Aside from the obvious baby weight my hair was one of the first things that had me really beginning to review myself, my body and my personal brand differently. Embracing my short hair felt like I was ditching my former self, the original me. I am beginning to come around to having the short hair and being a madre. The hair is super easy to deal with. Washing once or twice a week, yes I did this pre baby too, and fixing it with dry shampoo when needed. It is VERY easy hair to have. I just wish I could figure out some tools or styling. Every attempt with a curling iron results in a limp piece of hot hair.

There is no conclusion to this post. My cousin’s comment  simply reminded me of my short hair insecurities and had me looking for a quick fix for my ‘mom hair’. I had equated mermaid hair with giving off this relaxed, easy breezy & carefree madre vibe. But after all of that, and many of my fave fashion icon celebs, hey Beyonce, following suit, I am happy with my cut. I just wish I could figure out how to style it most days and maybe even hire a personal hair professional to do it for me now & again.

xx ly

Five things for a more fashionable spring

Meet my friend Pauline, she is a wardrobe stylist working across the country styling models, athletes and celebrities. I have had the pleasure of working with her and now get to call her a dear friend. Today Pauline is sharing her five must haves for a stylish Spring!


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  1. Unrefined coconut oil – I believe our skin and hair are our greatest accessory therefore that has to be on point first and foremost. Coconut oil will also help achieve gorgeous ethereal beauty.
  2. Flare jeans – Channeling 70’s chic
  3. Sachajuan Ocean Mist + Oribe Dry Texturizing Spray – My can’t-live-without essentials to give my mane full bodied, tousled beach waves while giving my hair a break from a wash.
  4. Light scarf – I have my go-to spring scarves that I travel with that can be styled in multiple ways.
  5. Floor length bohemian print dress – I can take this dress from Spring straight thru to Fall with the right layering and accent pieces.

Thank you PK for sharing! I am already a fan of the Sachajuan ocean mist spray. Was introduced to it by my hair stylist last year and love how easy to use it is. Also a major fan of #5 the boho dress, I think they are flattering on EVERYONE. Might have to try to work the flare jeans into rotation, but need to find the right pair first.

xx Ly